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Short version: I'm looking for women who want a sore bottom! Now the longer version...
I've been spanking people for some time now. I can match my style of impact to what you need, and I've got a reasonable selection of equipment (belts, paddles, canes, etc.) for when something harder is needed. If you need something light and playful, especially if you're a beginner, I can do that. If you need to be caned well beyond merely crying, I can do that too. Or anywhere in between, really.
My main limit on intensity is informed consent - I need to be sure that whatever you ask for, you're experienced enough to know what you're asking for. I'm happy to push limits with people I know, and that works well for playing regularly with someone, but I won't play with a new person at a higher intensity unless I know they've been there before. Apart from that, my only real hard limits are no permanent injuries, nothing illegal, and no hard drugs. Oh, and if you have a partner then they need to have consented to you playing too.
Since I'm a confirmed spanko, I'm perfectly happy to just be a top, and give spankings which are purely about us both enjoying the sensations. I will always prefer being dom or disciplinarian though, because that adds an extra mental element to it.
As a disciplinarian I don't roleplay exactly, because the parental-type disciplinarian role is basically just who I am. I do prefer working with real-world (or at least realistic) reasons for punishment, because it needs to feel natural. For that, the other person might be a naughty little girl, a bratty teenager, or some other role that works for them. Or not; what matters is what works with your headspace. And whilst I'm very laidback and easygoing outside of this, when we get started then I'm absolutely strict. I'm very fair - I'll never make up things on the spot or force you to fail - but I'll make sure you know the rules and there is no room for leniency in that.
I should say that I'm not particularly looking for sex. I'm not averse to it, but I already have a fiancée and a regular play partner so this isn't something I need exactly, and anything sexual needs more discussion on all sides. Simply giving a spanking is a lot simpler.
I should also say that I'm straight, so I'm only looking for women here. For the avoidance of doubt, if you've had or are working towards gender reassignment then you're a woman; and if you're just cross-dressing then you aren't. I don't switch either - I'll always be the one on the handle end of the implements. I'm happy to play with couples too, whether that's double-domming or him just watching, but it's fair to say my primary focus will be on the female half. Age and body shape are largely immaterial - if I have a type, it's "intelligent".
My fiancee and I are poly, and actively support each other playing with other people. We prefer playing with people who we both like as friends, and in a poly relationship that generally avoids drama. Knowing the other person better also generally leads to better play too, because everything comes more naturally.
If this sounds like it might be your kind of thing, then ping me and we can chat. Or if you go to local events or munches, that can be a good place to say hi in person.
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GrahamB74
Easygoing dom/disciplinarian
| Sex: | Male |
| Orientation: | spanker |
| Location: | Saint Neots |
| Age: | 50 years |
| Sponsoring: | I don't expect money |
| Marital status: | married |
| I'm looking for a: | woman, couple |
| Height: | 5ft 10in (178 cm) |
| Weight: | 13st 0lb (82.6 kg) |
| Preferred spanking: | hard |
| Last login: | online today |
Message him for free
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Short version: I'm looking for women who want a sore bottom! Now the longer version...
I've been spanking people for some time now. I can match my style of impact to what you need, and I've got a reasonable selection of equipment (belts, paddles, canes, etc.) for when something harder is needed. If you need something light and playful, especially if you're a beginner, I can do that. If you need to be caned well beyond merely crying, I can do that too. Or anywhere in between, really.
My main limit on intensity is informed consent - I need to be sure that whatever you ask for, you're experienced enough to know what you're asking for. I'm happy to push limits with people I know, and that works well for playing regularly with someone, but I won't play with a new person at a higher intensity unless I know they've been there before. Apart from that, my only real hard limits are no permanent injuries, nothing illegal, and no hard drugs. Oh, and if you have a partner then they need to have consented to you playing too.
Since I'm a confirmed spanko, I'm perfectly happy to just be a top, and give spankings which are purely about us both enjoying the sensations. I will always prefer being dom or disciplinarian though, because that adds an extra mental element to it.
As a disciplinarian I don't roleplay exactly, because the parental-type disciplinarian role is basically just who I am. I do prefer working with real-world (or at least realistic) reasons for punishment, because it needs to feel natural. For that, the other person might be a naughty little girl, a bratty teenager, or some other role that works for them. Or not; what matters is what works with your headspace. And whilst I'm very laidback and easygoing outside of this, when we get started then I'm absolutely strict. I'm very fair - I'll never make up things on the spot or force you to fail - but I'll make sure you know the rules and there is no room for leniency in that.
I should say that I'm not particularly looking for sex. I'm not averse to it, but I already have a fiancée and a regular play partner so this isn't something I need exactly, and anything sexual needs more discussion on all sides. Simply giving a spanking is a lot simpler.
I should also say that I'm straight, so I'm only looking for women here. For the avoidance of doubt, if you've had or are working towards gender reassignment then you're a woman; and if you're just cross-dressing then you aren't. I don't switch either - I'll always be the one on the handle end of the implements. I'm happy to play with couples too, whether that's double-domming or him just watching, but it's fair to say my primary focus will be on the female half. Age and body shape are largely immaterial - if I have a type, it's "intelligent".
My fiancee and I are poly, and actively support each other playing with other people. We prefer playing with people who we both like as friends, and in a poly relationship that generally avoids drama. Knowing the other person better also generally leads to better play too, because everything comes more naturally.
If this sounds like it might be your kind of thing, then ping me and we can chat. Or if you go to local events or munches, that can be a good place to say hi in person.
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