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My interests in spanking and discipline go together as core parts of a broader interest in sensual BDSM which I’d consider to be more seductive than sadistic. If you actually want a sadist then you'd best look elsewhere.
I identify as dominant with a mind to inspire submissive behaviour than to impose it; to allow another with a need to express submissive tendencies to do so without fear or shame but with trust in my respect for their vulnerability. I expect trust to take time and I recognise it as a privilege when it’s given.
If that sounds a bit over-sincere for a simple spanking then you’d be right as I’m not a thrash'n'dash type. My idea of a worthwhile session is one which burns slowly and surely enough to give the recipient a chance to zone out and experience the serene high of ‘subspace’.
Having looked around and conferred with a good female friend who is also a member here, it seems I may be a fair alternative to other male spankers in various ways:
1. I am genuine, reliable, conscientious and understanding of the caution needed at every step of a journey like this which begins online; no doubt it's a minefield for everyone. As such you won't find me playing much of a dominant pretence (besides the moody photo) until it's appropriately prompted.
2. At its heart I'd consider my role to be in service to the recipient whereas others may get heady on the idea that any submissive is meant to be in service to them. In reality to me you're a beauty to behold and not a bitch to betray. This should be mutual.
3. I am in no way desperate or driven by ego, libido, misogyny or anything dodgy. I am discerning. Discretion and maturity, mental and emotional stability and independence are all essential.
4. While I'm generally playful and not averse to roleplay I'd consider most scenarios inappropriate for the length of sessions I prefer where safety, trust and vulnerability are not to be toyed with.
5. I am not anti-sexual; you are allowed to find things erotic.
6. I have quality instruments to replace my hand when its throbbing starts to irritate me; no tat from Lovehoney or the local garden centre. That may be as frightening as it is reassuring however I can be trusted to use them responsibly.
7. I won’t spam your inbox, pressure you to engage or push you to meet. Ideally you may have the confidence to make first contact. I don't bite without consent so just do it.
Miscellanies:
I can travel but would rather accommodate if only to be assured of providing the right aftercare in the event that one of us turns to jelly.
I won't be persuaded to switch, spank men, part with money or jump through silly hoops under any circumstances; nor will I ever dickpic in spite of its fabulousness. Guaranteed.
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MrFirmly
Sensual Disciplinarian
| Sex: | Male |
| Orientation: | spanker |
| Location: | Bromley |
| Age: | 49 years |
| Sponsoring: | I don't expect money |
| Marital status: | single |
| I'm looking for a: | woman |
| Height: | 6ft 1in (185 cm) |
| Weight: | 13st 6lb (85.3 kg) |
| Preferred spanking: | hard |
| Last login: | over 30 days ago |
Message him for free
Remember him
My interests in spanking and discipline go together as core parts of a broader interest in sensual BDSM which I’d consider to be more seductive than sadistic. If you actually want a sadist then you'd best look elsewhere.
I identify as dominant with a mind to inspire submissive behaviour than to impose it; to allow another with a need to express submissive tendencies to do so without fear or shame but with trust in my respect for their vulnerability. I expect trust to take time and I recognise it as a privilege when it’s given.
If that sounds a bit over-sincere for a simple spanking then you’d be right as I’m not a thrash'n'dash type. My idea of a worthwhile session is one which burns slowly and surely enough to give the recipient a chance to zone out and experience the serene high of ‘subspace’.
Having looked around and conferred with a good female friend who is also a member here, it seems I may be a fair alternative to other male spankers in various ways:
1. I am genuine, reliable, conscientious and understanding of the caution needed at every step of a journey like this which begins online; no doubt it's a minefield for everyone. As such you won't find me playing much of a dominant pretence (besides the moody photo) until it's appropriately prompted.
2. At its heart I'd consider my role to be in service to the recipient whereas others may get heady on the idea that any submissive is meant to be in service to them. In reality to me you're a beauty to behold and not a bitch to betray. This should be mutual.
3. I am in no way desperate or driven by ego, libido, misogyny or anything dodgy. I am discerning. Discretion and maturity, mental and emotional stability and independence are all essential.
4. While I'm generally playful and not averse to roleplay I'd consider most scenarios inappropriate for the length of sessions I prefer where safety, trust and vulnerability are not to be toyed with.
5. I am not anti-sexual; you are allowed to find things erotic.
6. I have quality instruments to replace my hand when its throbbing starts to irritate me; no tat from Lovehoney or the local garden centre. That may be as frightening as it is reassuring however I can be trusted to use them responsibly.
7. I won’t spam your inbox, pressure you to engage or push you to meet. Ideally you may have the confidence to make first contact. I don't bite without consent so just do it.
Miscellanies:
I can travel but would rather accommodate if only to be assured of providing the right aftercare in the event that one of us turns to jelly.
I won't be persuaded to switch, spank men, part with money or jump through silly hoops under any circumstances; nor will I ever dickpic in spite of its fabulousness. Guaranteed.
Ok? Thanks for listening.
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