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I enjoy the aesthetics of spanking, the vulnerability granted, the dynamic that takes us out of the everyday.
I like cultivating a dynamic through strong open communication. I am interested most in the innermost shameless self in all of us.
Quietly spoken and easy going with a natural authority developed though working in a traditional position of leadership.
Currently looking for spankees.
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I have found there can be big differences in how people interpret their need for a spanking, also how one is delivered, so I have set out my take on so there is clearer understanding.
A good spanking for me combines several elements which combine to make for something that is both physical and psychological.
It is always worth asking yourself:
- Why do I want to be spanked?
- What do I hope do get out of it?
- What are my realistic limits?
Mindset
I am a quietly spoken, educated, easy going guy with a successful and varied career. Lots of travel, lived in a few countries and lots of interests. I get along with most people.
Finding myself in positions of traditional and absolute authority (at sea) has fostered a calm but clear disposition which I bring with me to spanking. Comments from spankees have been along the lines of ‘you don’t need to say a lot,’ which I take as a compliment.
The mindset of a spankee seems to vary more than most would suggest, but there are some common threads. In some cases there is a need for a consequence, for others a spanking is about being taken to a headspace where the thinking stops and feeling begins, fuelling a powerful release. It’s ultimately something very personal.
My mindset, and what I get a lot out of, is delivering a connecting experience. One where the spankee leaves feeling she has grown and that we have connected.
Humiliation
A spanking is, by its nature, humiliating.
For some, to cross the bridge into being spanked for the first time takes enormous courage. For others, being spanked comes very naturally. Either way, there is a degree of exposure that runs counter to our everyday lives. At the same time, the spankee is voluntarily relinquishing a control and putting their faith in me to do what it is right for them. This in itself is a big part of the catharsis of spanking: to be entirely free of responsibility.
It’s important that limits are clear from the beginning. The degree of exposure will depend on each individual situation, but in all cases it must be agreed what form exposure takes. A bare bottom spanking as part of the punishment is important, it’s here that the psychological exposure and physical punishment combine.
Implements
There is a purity to spanking with the bare hand that in some ways for me is unmatched. In some cases this is more than enough.
When I use implements, they are traditional, mostly leather by the London Tanners. No scene is ever the same and how the spankee will be punished (other than adhering to the limits set) is very much something decided as the spanking evolves, along with which implements I use.
Environment
Environment is a big part of an enjoyable spanking scene for me and I think perhaps the most underplayed element.
Essential for first time scenes is a sense of the ‘other’ for the spankee, I.e. the spanking should not be delivered at the spankees home, but must feel saf for both parties.
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thatsit89
Spanker bringing quiet, calm order to bottoms
| Sex: | Male |
| Orientation: | spanker |
| Location: | Salisbury |
| Age: | 37 years |
| Sponsoring: | I don't expect money |
| Marital status: | single |
| I'm looking for a: | woman |
| Height: | 5ft 11in (180 cm) |
| Weight: | 12st 9lb (80.3 kg) |
| Preferred spanking: | hard |
| Last login: | over 30 days ago |
Message him for free
Remember him
I enjoy the aesthetics of spanking, the vulnerability granted, the dynamic that takes us out of the everyday.
I like cultivating a dynamic through strong open communication. I am interested most in the innermost shameless self in all of us.
Quietly spoken and easy going with a natural authority developed though working in a traditional position of leadership.
Currently looking for spankees.
A bit more...
I have found there can be big differences in how people interpret their need for a spanking, also how one is delivered, so I have set out my take on so there is clearer understanding.
A good spanking for me combines several elements which combine to make for something that is both physical and psychological.
It is always worth asking yourself:
- Why do I want to be spanked?
- What do I hope do get out of it?
- What are my realistic limits?
Mindset
I am a quietly spoken, educated, easy going guy with a successful and varied career. Lots of travel, lived in a few countries and lots of interests. I get along with most people.
Finding myself in positions of traditional and absolute authority (at sea) has fostered a calm but clear disposition which I bring with me to spanking. Comments from spankees have been along the lines of ‘you don’t need to say a lot,’ which I take as a compliment.
The mindset of a spankee seems to vary more than most would suggest, but there are some common threads. In some cases there is a need for a consequence, for others a spanking is about being taken to a headspace where the thinking stops and feeling begins, fuelling a powerful release. It’s ultimately something very personal.
My mindset, and what I get a lot out of, is delivering a connecting experience. One where the spankee leaves feeling she has grown and that we have connected.
Humiliation
A spanking is, by its nature, humiliating.
For some, to cross the bridge into being spanked for the first time takes enormous courage. For others, being spanked comes very naturally. Either way, there is a degree of exposure that runs counter to our everyday lives. At the same time, the spankee is voluntarily relinquishing a control and putting their faith in me to do what it is right for them. This in itself is a big part of the catharsis of spanking: to be entirely free of responsibility.
It’s important that limits are clear from the beginning. The degree of exposure will depend on each individual situation, but in all cases it must be agreed what form exposure takes. A bare bottom spanking as part of the punishment is important, it’s here that the psychological exposure and physical punishment combine.
Implements
There is a purity to spanking with the bare hand that in some ways for me is unmatched. In some cases this is more than enough.
When I use implements, they are traditional, mostly leather by the London Tanners. No scene is ever the same and how the spankee will be punished (other than adhering to the limits set) is very much something decided as the spanking evolves, along with which implements I use.
Environment
Environment is a big part of an enjoyable spanking scene for me and I think perhaps the most underplayed element.
Essential for first time scenes is a sense of the ‘other’ for the spankee, I.e. the spanking should not be delivered at the spankees home, but must feel saf for both parties.
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